“My Child Is Happy Performing Alone” — Why the VMA Still Believes in Community

One thing we often hear — especially from parents of younger students in that middle school or rising freshman stage — is this:

“My son/daughter isn’t really into clubs. They’re happy just practicing and performing alone.”

At the VMA, we understand this deeply. The solo musical journey is never shunned upon here. Many young musicians are naturally reflective and happiest behind a piano, in a practice room, or reading quietly at home.

In fact, while I serve as Director of the VMA, I am personally most content sitting quietly with a book or at the piano myself. So why do I do this work?

Because change needs to happen. And without the next generation learning how to work together to tackle our country’s and world’s greatest challenges, hope grows dimmer by the day.

Classically trained musicians often grow up in highly individual environments focused on lessons, recitals, auditions, and solo repertoire. These experiences build discipline, artistry, and courage — all important forms of leadership. But what is often missing is encouragement to lead beyond performance itself: organizing outreach projects, building clubs, serving communities, and using music as a tool for human connection.

At the VMA, we believe students should not have to choose between artistic excellence and community impact. We work alongside teachers, schools, families, and arts organizations to help students grow not only as performers, but also as compassionate leaders.

For younger students especially, social musical experiences vary greatly. Some teachers host regular recitals; others do not. Some students study privately with a parent and may never experience group performances at all. That is okay.

What matters is that students know there is a pathway forward.

Through our national network of educators connected through organizations like the Music Teachers National Association, relationships with global leaders like Steinway & Sons, and connections with local music retailers and educators, we believe it is often just a matter of time before students discover meaningful outreach opportunities and friendships through music.

Virtual meetups with parents are always welcome as we learn how music is already playing a role in a student’s life and help identify outreach and leadership pathways when appropriate.

Succinctly stated, we honor the solo journey while helping students discover that they do not have to walk it entirely alone.